Sports are exciting, engaging, and entertaining. Most athletes spend hours training, practicing, and honing their skills so they can perform to the best of their ability. And it’s no secret that watching a live team sport event can bring out the competitive nature in even the most passive of people. This is especially true when it comes to parents watching their children play on their school sports teams.
For some, being on time comes rather easy, but adding children into the equation can challenge even the most punctual parent. This seems most apparent in the daily gauntlet of getting out of the door and to school before the bell rings (breakfast not included). Here are some hints to help us minimize the last minute delays that may keep us from the benefits of being on time.
“Mom, that’s not due until next week!”
“I’ll have plenty of time to work on that later.”
“Our teacher said the essay is due at the end of the quarter.”
“Do I have to work on that now? No one else is!”
“I’m so tired! Can I please wait until tomorrow?”
Have you heard anything like this from your children before? If so, then congratulations because your family is completely normal! Procrastination is the default setting for most people’s way of thinking and way of life, however, it’s not typically the best way to accomplish goals or achieve great things. Like most life skills children will mimic what they observe, and so the task of teaching our children about procrastination and its downfalls rests upon our shoulders as parents. Here are a few ways to help teach children to steer clear of procrastination and instead teach the art of accomplishment.
Sometimes when we begin something, the excitement and newness of it all can carry us quite far, but towards the end, things can get tough. For our kids, the school year can feel much the same. Here are some encouraging tips for us as parents on how we can teach and encourage our children the challenges and the rewards of finishing well.
Have you ever wondered why your toddler’s favorite word seems to be ‘why?’ Have your older children lost their curious drive or do they no longer ‘care’ why something is the way it is? You may have even been told that ‘Curiosity killed the cat,’ but let’s look at some reasons why curiosity should be encouraged and fostered in our children.
Your child is headed off to college. Parents, congratulations for a job well done. You have invested 18 years to ‘train this child in the way he/she should go’. Now what do you do? As your heart prepares to walk out the door, here are some tips that may help with the transition:
Every child is different, of course, but many of us have had a child (or were the child) that did everything well. Whether it was God-given talent and ability or a lot of hard work, or both, these kids are accustomed to success. These kids make the teams, win the awards, and get the A’s. Lots of A’s. Unfortunately, these are often the kids who are most shaken when things don’t go their way - when they get that first B.
While we as parents may not want to celebrate the B with our child, we can definitely take the opportunity to help our child learn a few important lessons through their 'B'.
Last week we introduced tips on how to parent the middle school student and the first four important topics we discussed were:
1. ENCOURAGE INDEPENDENCE; 2. LEAD THEM TO LEAD; 3. TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED; and 4. TEACHERS ARE ON YOUR TEAM
Here are some further helpful hints that have been learned along the way:
Transitioning from parenting an elementary school aged student (5-10) to a middle school in San Diego aged student (11-14) can be a confusing and frustrating time. There's a lot of change and growth that takes place in kids as the prefrontal cortex of the brain starts developing around age 11, and personalities and learning style can sometimes seemingly change overnight. There is also a significant adjustment to new surroundings and schedules at school: multiple teachers, subjects, classrooms, and expectations, all with an alternating schedule. I think it's safe to say your child may struggle. They need you to be quick to encourage them and reinforce your confidence in them. There will be a transitional period for everyone and it will take time, but you must remember: time is on your side -- it’s only middle school.
Parenting this age calls for wisdom and much flexibility. There needs to be more room for independence as your child becomes more self-aware, opinionated, and naturaly desiring more freedom and responsibility. As parents, a transition may occur to add the roles of a coach and a cheerleader while continuing in the many other pre-existing roles we might be still learning.
With all this in mind, here are some helpful hints to help parents through this transitional period:
So often parents “shop” for the perfect kindergarten for their child’s educational journey to begin. But are parents really stopping to consider the actual needs of their child before finding the “perfect” kindergarten?
Consider this as a checklist of opportunities when beginning the educational journey for your child, from what to look for when choosing the right school, to tapping into your child’s needs, and then taking it to the next level of how to prepare your child for the most successful Kindergarten in San Diego experience.