“Well, that’s the last of it,” my mom announced as she came bustling in with a monstrous box of books and closed the door against the sultry summer air. This was four years ago and we had just downsized from my beautiful childhood home to a tiny townhouse in time for me to start high school, the reason for our move. My new school was not only gorgeous, it was renowned for its superior academics – absolutely worthy of the change in our living conditions. It was my dream school and I was now to sign up for my dream classes.
My daughter has FOMO. Are you up on your acronyms? That’s the Fear Of Missing Out. I am the proud mother of a daughter who fears missing out on anything and everything. To make that even more challenging, until recently she was very shy. That makes knowing how to navigate parenting her nearly unknowable. It took some trial and error to know how to deal with the constant longing for things - whether material things, experiences, or relationships - that she didn’t have. We slogged through empathy, punishment, and ignoring her feelings, but finally learned to calm these crises with a focus on gratitude. I’m not going to pretend that this works all the time. After all, she’s only twelve. But our hope is that by practicing gratitude, our daughter can focus on what she does get to do, or have, allowing her to enjoy those experiences even more.
There is indeed a need for balance in our busy lives, but there is an importance to the ingredients that fill our family's time and devotion. This leads us to examine our lives and the things that vie for our attention to decide what is most important or beneficial. In light of these attempts to prioritize our schedules, here are 3 key ingredients proven to result in a ‘Big Win’ for our family’s future - what I call the church, home, and school Trifecta.
From the moment children are born, parents naturally want to see them succeed at everything in life. As parents, we have a special and unique role to play in our childrens' lives as they navigate through the different challenges, successes, and failures that they will inevitably face. Academics, athletics, and social scenarios will all create opportunities for children to learn from and grow through. Finding the balance between being a supportive spectator and challenging them to reach outside of their comfort zone can be difficult at best.
If your son or daughter has expressed interest in trying out for the school play, here are a few tips to help you both thrive (and survive) from the audition to the final bow.
The rigors and responsibilities of student life can take their toll on our kids. Sometimes, especially when teenagers are involved, those overwhelming emotions can roll over onto the rest of the family as well! Between applying themselves to academics, participating in athletics, serving in student leadership, and attending social activities, the balance of it all can feel like it’s resting on a very fine point, ready to tip at any moment.
To ensure that you and your family maintain a healthy life balance, here are a few key points to remember as you help your student-athletes navigate through another year of academics and athletics.
Sports are exciting, engaging, and entertaining. Most athletes spend hours training, practicing, and honing their skills so they can perform to the best of their ability. And it’s no secret that watching a live team sport event can bring out the competitive nature in even the most passive of people. This is especially true when it comes to parents watching their children play on their school sports teams.
For some, being on time comes rather easy, but adding children into the equation can challenge even the most punctual parent. This seems most apparent in the daily gauntlet of getting out of the door and to school before the bell rings (breakfast not included). Here are some hints to help us minimize the last minute delays that may keep us from the benefits of being on time.
“Mom, that’s not due until next week!”
“I’ll have plenty of time to work on that later.”
“Our teacher said the essay is due at the end of the quarter.”
“Do I have to work on that now? No one else is!”
“I’m so tired! Can I please wait until tomorrow?”
Have you heard anything like this from your children before? If so, then congratulations because your family is completely normal! Procrastination is the default setting for most people’s way of thinking and way of life, however, it’s not typically the best way to accomplish goals or achieve great things. Like most life skills children will mimic what they observe, and so the task of teaching our children about procrastination and its downfalls rests upon our shoulders as parents. Here are a few ways to help teach children to steer clear of procrastination and instead teach the art of accomplishment.
Sometimes when we begin something, the excitement and newness of it all can carry us quite far, but towards the end, things can get tough. For our kids, the school year can feel much the same. Here are some encouraging tips for us as parents on how we can teach and encourage our children the challenges and the rewards of finishing well.
Have you ever wondered why your toddler’s favorite word seems to be ‘why?’ Have your older children lost their curious drive or do they no longer ‘care’ why something is the way it is? You may have even been told that ‘Curiosity killed the cat,’ but let’s look at some reasons why curiosity should be encouraged and fostered in our children.